We live in a society where the first thing you do when you wake up is check your social media. I love social media; I think it can be very positive and fun. However is it really normal to know every detail about someone’s day? What their having to eat, who they’re with etc.. we basically have become stalkers of our own friends. We put out onto social media a highlight reel of our days. We don’t tend to broadcast the negative. I think this can be really soul-destroying for many people including myself. Everyone seems to be happy, have amazing lifestyles and doing great things. It can leave you doubting your life and goals. We all have to remember that it’s not completely real; that person may have had a bad day but because they post something cool we all assume their life must be amazing and are hard on ourselves because we don’t have that.
Social media can be negative in that sense. It’s normal but we have to sometimes put down our phones and step into the real world for a second. Look at what you have and your life and be grateful! Yeah, you may not have that fancy bag or that cool car but turn the negative into a positive. If that’s what you really want then work for it! Always remember that no one is happy all the time and material things aren’t what’s important.
We all have our own paths and just because yours seems to be going a bit slower than someone else’s means nothing. We all remember ‘The Hare and the Tortoise’ story we were all told as a kid. It’s okay to be the tortoise, you will make it to the finish line in the end. We can become so caught up in what we are meant to be doing and what others are doing that we forget about our own lives and what we want. Just take it step by step and see what happens. Create a rough plan and if you don’t stick to it then who cares, things change but do things for you and because you love them. Don’t try to please someone else!
I was looking through my social media one day and realised that all these people I have, I don’t know anymore and they don’t know me. I was thinking why do I have people on social media that I haven’t spoken to in a while and probably never will. So I deleted some people. Not because I don’t like them but because I don’t know them. Why are we sharing our lives with people who don’t really know you anymore? I know I probably contradict myself as I have a blog and my Instagram is public. However, I still feel that if you’re not happy with the content of your feed; this can be because it’s too negative or the people who you have you are no longer friends with. Then get rid. It’s not being nasty, you simply don’t know or speak to those people anymore. Your social media should be filled with what you want to see and the people you want.
I feel a lot more refreshed and happier that I did a little social media clear out. (as I like to call it lol) You don’t need negative people or posts in your life. People change and aren’t who you think they are anymore and that’s fine. Losing friends and people are a part of growing. I advise you to have a little clear out of people and take time for yourself. We should all spend a little less time on social media and more time with our loved ones; the people you care about and talk to each day. Not following some people on social media that you don’t speak to anymore.
Take care and make this the year the year of no more negativity. If people aren’t adding to your life then why are they there? You have to take time to yourself and think what is important. Don’t force friendships or relationships, just let them happen.
“Those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind”
Lots of love and happiness
Alice xo
Alice Woodward 