One thing I’m beginning to open my eyes up to is we are all the same. We are all experiencing the human experience. Just at different paces and times.
This goes back to me saying I don’t feel like a person. I think we can become so consumed with our own thoughts and feelings we sometimes forget others are having similar.
Your parents are getting older like you. They are experiencing life for the first time too. Just because they are older in age doesn’t mean they know exactly what they are doing. I have said before but there is no rule book. We are all just hoping and guessing we are making the right decisions.
Pause for a moment and think about all the people in your life. Take a break from consuming yourself in you and think about the people you work with.
Mine are mostly in their 20s like me.
Your 20s are tough because you are becoming an adult and learning constantly. It can feel lonely, like you’re behind and fearful. However, it’s also quite magical experiencing things for the first time and learning.
When you look at the people you are working with- they are all going through something. Whether they show it or not.
Be kind always. You never know how much it took for someone to get out of bed that day. We all have our off days and it’s normal to feel angry at someone for not performing but just pause in that moment and while yes it’s okay to be cross think about them and what they might be dealing with. We all have our bad days and mess up. It’s called being human. Show some humanity on the days where others aren’t doing great. Think about how you would like to be treated on your bad days.
Let’s talk about bad days. Heavy, messy hard days where life feels like it’s not moving. You feel that empty heavy feeling in your chest. Nothing feels right. It’s okay we all have them. It’s how you choose to react to those days that matters. If you can then yes let yourself rest and take care of yourself but sometimes those days land on days where life is busy and you have work. Keep going. Keep showing up. Even if it’s not your best it’s something and that’s what truly matters. People will understand. More than you think. Open up and talk about it. Communication is so important. Not only will it take a weight off your shoulders it will make people realise how much you are really holding right now. I’m always here to listen so if you feel like you have no one. Know you have me. Even if I don’t really know you. As a society we can help and understand each other. We see so much negativity online that we forget that we are all human and most people do want to help and listen.
We all have baggage. We all have scars. We all have things we don’t speak about. Not everyone is out to hurt you and allowing yourself permission to have those feelings and thoughts is normal.
Some days will feel like a grey cloud is above your head all day. But there is always tomorrow and you don’t know what that will bring. Could be the best day of your life but you don’t know yet. You don’t know the people you are gonna meet, the opportunities waiting for you and the plans that will be made. So keep going. Keep fighting. You are doing so well and if no one has told you lately then I’m proud of you for showing up. That is strength! If the only thing you did today is get up- then I’m proud of you for choosing yourself!
Lots of love and happiness
Alice xo
Alice Woodward 