I had to become okay with letting people go. I was/still am not good at that. When I like you and see potential I want to give you my heart but as I have said before in previous posts- if you think people have this same heart as you; your going to be disappointed.
It’s true. Just because you give everything doesn’t mean they will. You have to be okay with that. At the end of the day if you know that you have been nice, honest and a good person then it’s their loss! They don’t deserve the light you bring to the table and my darling never dim that light. The world needs more of it.
I have come to learn that unhealed people and not just unhealed but insecure people will not know how to handle your light. They will call you too much! Well go find less! You will be perfect for someone.
One of my pet peeves and well I hate is not replying! We are all on our phones. It takes seconds. If you’re busy communicate it. Honestly communication is key to everything. A lot can be solved from just sitting down and talking about it. If you’re not interested let them know. If you are let them know. We are adults. We have one life. If they don’t like that- then I can promise you there will be someone that does!
I like to make excuses for people. Always defending their name and not mine.
It’s a very toxic frame of mind. Always thinking you have to prove your worth. Maybe they will notice you and you will feel safe again. Like your wanted and noticed. People pleasing.
Exhausting isn’t it.
If this is you then I want to give you a big hug!! I think our inner children would be friends!
Unlearning this behaviour is wild and uncomfortable. You go through waves of emotions. It will all come up to the surface and your old behaviours will creep in and sometimes they win but when you are in that mind frame of the healed version of you that understands that behaviour you can start to have a conversation with yourself and assess the situation in a more mature way.
I’m starting to accept things more. Not trying to change an outcome and letting it be. What’s meant for you will always find you even if that’s years later.
Accepting that some things won’t change will free your mind. You don’t need to carry anyone’s baggage. You stay in your lane my lovely and you keeping going! Shine bright!
Sending lots of love
Alice xo
Alice Woodward 