Let’s Be Honest…

You’re always going to be the bad guy in someone’s life. You are going to be disliked for what’s been said about you. You’re going to have your name spat on by people you have never met. But the way I look at it is what’s said behind your back is none of your business. They took time out their day to chat about you. Boy, you must have made an impact and for that, I clap for you. If people want to believe talk about you then let them. They don’t matter. But don’t you worry your pretty little mind. Karma is a bitch only if you are!

I don’t know what’s worse; breaking someone’s heart or being heartbroken. Both are two different pains. You have got to do what makes you feel happy and is right for you. You can’t go through life pleasing others. Not if you not happy anyway. It’s been a hard month. It’s that constant feeling of ‘am I a bad person?’ and no you’re not. I believe there is not just one person out there for you. We connect with people on different wavelengths. It’s healthy to meet others and grow connections. Some of those people won’t last but the memories will. I think people come into your life for reasons. They are different chapters but often not meant to stay as you grow and as do they. There will be multiple important people in your life. I think that’s quite an exciting prospect. When I look back at my life so far, there are strangers that I once called my closest friends, and there are strangers who have come into my life unexpectedly and changed everything. One door closes and two doors open. Just go with life and see what happens.

You are not a bad person for choosing you! That person will get over it and find what they are meant to be doing. It could be a blessing in disguise for them. Don’t stay with someone because you are afraid to hurt their feelings. At some point in all our lives, we will be hurt and we will do the hurting but you have got to be selfish sometimes. There is no right timing and it’s horrible but you can get through it.

Go out and live your life. Don’t just settle and at such a young age. You have no idea what there is to come. Make mistakes, kiss that boy you have liked for god knows how long, take risks. Be with people who make you feel alive. Drink one too many drinks with good friends. Eat your body weight in food. You are so young to limit yourself! Catch up with as many friends as possible and laugh as loud as you can about that silly haircut when you were 13. Life’s too short to take it seriously.

Laughter and friends are honestly the best medicine. I couldn’t thank the special ladies in my life for how great they make me feel. You know who you are, we don’t have to speak every day but I know that when we do it’s like we never stopped.

Heartbreak hurts and it hurts when you’re the person doing it. That’s something people don’t talk about. They just assume that because you have done it that your cold and nasty. Sometimes you outgrow people. You need to move on and have a fresh beginning. It’s healthy. What’s not healthy is staying in one place your whole life trying to make it work. It’s your life, you are in control. I want you to look back on your life and say that I chose this, I didn’t settle.

Lots of love and happiness

Alice xo