I am a very impulsive person. When I get an idea, I have to get it done straight away. Wether that’s cleaning, buying things I want to sorting out. It’s not a bad thing however, when it creeps into your life and mental health I feel so much pressure. Pressure to get my life sorted. Get a career, a car, a man, a house. It can be so overwhelming. Stressing to feel you need to be the perfect women and adult. I have so many ideas but no idea how to get there and it stresses me out. There is this hidden pressure that you need to get your life sorted. Like there is some time schedule. It’s ridiculous when you think about it. We all develop in different ways and times.
It’s important to be kind to ourselves and not put the pressure on. Some people go to uni in their 30s, some people have families in their early 20s, some people live at home until their late 20s. We need to stop comparing our lives to others. Just let life happen. This is something I struggle with. I feel I need to have it all figured out. Truth is that’s not how it works.
I want to start being kind to myself and just focus on making myself happy and healthy. Focus on what you love and live life. Surround yourself with positive people who you love. Let go of all the doubt and people who bring nothing to your life. They don’t care about you so you shouldn’t care about them. You need yourself right now.
Kindness is so important and I know I say it a lot but you never know what someone is going through. It’s so true. If you don’t like something about someone, don’t point it out just keep it to yourself because you don’t know the full story behind things.
Someone said to me how do you truly love yourself and how do you get someone else to. Truth is it comes from yourself. If you are getting into bad habits and noticing that you are feeling the same bad way all the time. Look at your behaviour. Temporary happiness is just that.. temporary. It may be nice in the moment but the moment ends. You have to be strong with yourself to notice this. I have and still do always learn the hard way. Sometimes it takes being heartbroken one too many times for yourself to realise. You can’t really tell someone what to do, you can advise but ultimately they will do what they want. They will learn in the end and it’s hard to watch sometimes but it all catches up to us. Sometimes getting hurt is the only way to learn.
Be kind to yourself and others. Don’t worry about things too much. Just live. Be true to yourself and others. Give yourself a break.
Lots of love and happiness
Alice xo
Alice Woodward 