Life Lessons, Friendships and Bad Bosses

Over the past year it has been difficult for everyone and I think it’s hard not to address it as it’s been such a massive impact on our lives. I don’t want to talk about it too much as I want my blog to be a safe space and somewhere you can escape to. I’m not a perfect person and I like to think we can all learn something.

Friendships is a topic I would like to touch on. I have lost a lot of people in the past year. It’s heart-breaking at the time but some people aren’t meant to stay in your life long term and that is okay. It’s not something that you do, often it’s personal. I often give everything to everyone; my time, money, loyalty and attention. Some people can find that overwhelming. We have to understand that while we find it hard, people are going through their own wars. The way people do things and treat others is a reflection of how they have been treated. Never judge someone’s action we have no idea what’s going on. I often make the mistake of thinking people have the same heart as me and that’s just not possible. I text back really quick and get annoyed if the other person doesn’t, this doesn’t mean it’s wrong or they mean anything by it. It’s learning to not take things so personally.

Sometimes you can help someone through so much and feel they aren’t grateful and leave you after they have healed. It’s hard to understand why and you can feel quite bitter. I’m the type of person to try and see the good in everyone but sometimes you have to admit that some people just aren’t nice. No matter the circumstances. Never lower your expectations and worth just because you want to be with someone. If people don’t treat you right and how you deserve then leave them. There are plenty of people out there dying to meet a person like you. I have however, met some lovely people and have made some strong friendships. I find it hard when you talk so highly of someone for them just to let you down. It’s disappointing but you have to let some people go, they really aren’t worth your time.

I managed to bag myself a job during lockdown which was perfect at the time but unfortunately the business was badly managed and became unbearable to work for. No job is worth sacrificing your mental health. It’s a shame but it doesn’t matter how much money you are earning if they are mistreating you and making your work life hard then you have got to give it up. There are always other jobs. Luckily I found a job that I’m so happy in and is a lot more professional. I never understand how businesses can afford to be unprofessional and incompetent. One door closes and another will open. What is for you won’t go by you. You have to weigh up your options and pros and cons and your mental health needs to be priority. Do not ever tolerate people being rude to you wether that’s in a professional environment or not. No one deserves that!

Especially in this horrible uncertain time you need to look after yourself. We are all just trying to make the most of it. Hopefully things will start to get better especially now we have some dates. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. You don’t know what someone is going through and just because it looks like they are managing well doesn’t mean they are. Don’t stress that you aren’t doing a lot with your life. No one really is as we can’t at the moment. I’m always here if anyone needs to talk.

Take care of yourself.

Lots of love and happiness

Alice xo