Four months of the year left. It goes so quick yet so slow and you look back and suddenly everything has changed. Seems like only yesterday I was wishing in the new year with hopes and dreams of what will be. This year has made me grow and learn. I have gained strength and confidence within my self and my beliefs. It’s been challenging yet eye opening. This year has come with its challenges but I have a confidence that I decide what my life will be. A type of resilience that old me would be proud of.
Freedom begins within.
Old patterns are hard to break but once you realise they are keeping you trapped they no longer serve you. You break the chains of survival mode and what you once tolerated to keep you safe.
We all want love but at what cost! If it costs you your peace, pride and self worth. Then it’s simply not worth it. Let people be who they are and you be true to who you are. True colours will show. But be strong to believe in you and what you want. You can change your mind whenever you want. What once seemed right 6 months ago can feel so wrong now and that is the blessing of healing and growing!
Take the experiences for what they are. But let them go when they don’t fit your life now.
You will feel what is meant to be in your chest. I’m a strong believer in trusting your instincts.
Your mental health comes first. Don’t let it control your life and for god sake whatever you do don’t stopping taking tablets to help you! If you think something is wrong then talk about it! Communication is key. Talking can help people understand. Sometimes you feel so trapped in your head you don’t think anyone will understand and they may not understand completely but the right people will try.
Do what feels right for you. No matter that may look like to someone else. You don’t need anyone’s approval. You are grown and you know you more than anyone. Believe in yourself!
Sometimes we can get wrapped up in the moment. The love bombing. The making you feel whole. You are the only person that can make you feel whole. Don’t rush into things; let things come to you. This is not me saying don’t try but don’t let things consume you. It’s very hard. Emotions are strong and powerful they can feel physical.
Your mind is very powerful but you can control it. Thoughts are just thoughts- you choose what you can do with them. Remember you are in the driving seat of your life if you feel unhappy then change directions. Change the plot.
Fresh starts. Moving in somewhere new. Starting again. Feeling fresh. It’s all well and good and it helps but nothing will change unless your mind changes.
Letting things and people be. Realising you do contribute to your own unhappiness by clinging on to the past and your own expectations.
You have to be the one to decide to let it be and change. It’s not just all magically gonna go away because you moved.
Stop chasing answers.
I wrote the next section one night when I felt particularly low. Sometimes you have to let that anger out and my blog helps me process my emotions. The good, the bad and the ugly I will always share. I believe in what I write and this next bit is very true. If you are unsure with what you want don’t use others to comfort yourself. You have to do the healing alone. Don’t break someone because you are hurt.
I have realised something. I bring peace in to everyone else’s life but my own. I’m starting to question. Why is that?
If I’m gonna be so real with you all. I’m sad, I’m angry and I’m bitter. Why? Because I gave all of me just to be treated and left like that. It hurts. Why come in to someone’s life just to leave them like they were nothing. Just leave people alone! If you aren’t ready then don’t begin anything in the first place. The damage my heart has gone through and I still remain kind and understanding. People say that’s strength and love. I say it’s pure stupidity. I hate the way I love sometimes. Because I never get it back it return.
Is it intimidating? Is it scary? Is it too real? What is it!? I would love to know. But will never find out because they already have left and will only return when it’s too late.
What I want you to take from today’s post is to be true to who you are. Know that we can be wrong about things sometimes but that’s okay. Doesn’t mean you are a bad person just means you are human and are learning. Mistakes are good if you learn from them. Never be afraid to change the plot of your story!
There are four months left of 2026! Do it for the plot twist. Make yourself happy!
I wish these months bring you peace, happiness and more love for yourself!
Lots of love and happiness
Alice xo
Alice Woodward 